Ending psychotherapy or counselling should ideally be a part of therapy itself and as such a part of reparative therapeutic relationship. If done appropriately, endings can have a therapeutic impact also and can offer the client a new experience as to how relationships in life can be handled. Even though therapy relationships can differ based on the approach used and also based on the “depth” of psychotherapeutic work, ending therapy should ideally be planned ahead and agreed as part of treatment.
Psychotherapy or counselling relationship should ideally terminate when the end goal is met. This is the goal that the client and therapist set as their therapy goal (in transactional analysis we call them treatment contracts). This kind of ending is an ideal one. However, sometimes we find a client terminating psychotherapy or counselling relationship unexpectedly—prior to therapy coming to its natural end. I will focus on the latter scenario of terminating therapy in this post.
Can owning real estate be a defence for one’s own emotional insecurities and deficiencies? Is that the reason for climbing the London property ladder? Can it reduce our existential anxiety? OK, maybe I’m making a giant leap here in my assumption, but still—no reason for the assumption to be completely off—and not all of the time either.
What you will find reading this post is my own personal reflections on starting a private therapy practice in a big city—be it in counselling or psychotherapy. I am sure there is no cookie cutter approach to it—especially given that geographic location is such a massive factor to a therapist’s work—but I guess anyone can learn from anyone else’s experience. At least somewhat. And if they choose to.
April is stress awareness month. Stress is becoming more and more part of our everyday—we cannot even think of daily life without stress anymore—and as such is also either cause or accompanying many mental health and other psychological issues people bring into psychotherapy and counselling. However, a closer look at the internet search statistics, reveals astonishing figures related to stress, anxiety and depression, which are the top three mental health-related searches in the UK.
Narcissism by nature of the personality structure manifestation makes it hard for a narcissist to engage in authentic and intimate relationships. People who engage in a relationship with a narcissist will often be subject to the lack of connection, empathy and intimacy. They may find themselves under fire of allegations that they are too controlling and smothering. Even though these accusations will be part of narcissist’s distorted reality, there will often also be some pathology related to why someone gets involved with a narcissist in the first place. Usually such pathology will be unconscious.
A therapist will often be faced with a question of what the difference between sadness and depression is and what low mood is then. This will either come up in therapy room as client is making progress beating depression or dealing with any other issue and trying to evaluate progress, or it will come up as a question before a client even comes in for the first session of psychotherapy or counselling.
If there’s something you don’t want to commit to this year, include it in your new year’s resolutions. I guess this is something that could sum up how we actually treat and sticking to new year’s resolutions after making them. They are known not to stick and until we don’t change the way we make them, they are going to keep failing us. We’ll keep failing. If the habits we want to break out of are not wanted and are not making us feel good, then why are they so hard to get out of and why is sticking to new year’s resolutions so hard?