Tag: Anxiety

Changing Your Ways in Life - Ales Zivkovic

Changing Your Ways in Life

From the day we are born we are taught to be successful, smart and brilliant, but enjoy life at the same time. To share, but fight for what we want at the same time. To enjoy, be happy and go about our days with ease. To work hard, because only hard work pays off.

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How Stoicism Can Hurt You - Ales Zivkovic Psychotherapy and Counselling

How Stoicism Can Hurt You

Give it a bit more time and it might become shameful not being stoic under the pressures of cosmopolitan society. Where does the whole mantra come from? I am wondering, where are we getting stuck here?

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Anxiety and London Property Ladder

Anxiety and the London Property Ladder

Can owning real estate be a defence for one’s own emotional insecurities and deficiencies? Is that the reason for climbing the London property ladder? Can it reduce our existential anxiety? OK, maybe I’m making a giant leap here in my assumption, but still—no reason for the assumption to be completely off—and not all of the time either.

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Borderline Personality Disorder BPD

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a developmental disorder of the self. It is characterised by extreme emotional reactions, impulsivity, difficulty of properly engaging in relationships and diminished sense of self. Individuals with borderline personality disorder have difficulties with their sense of self, their self-esteem and self-worth. Relationships are a measure of gaining their sense of self and that is why they put great importance onto others, which is why they may often come across as overly pleasing sometimes.

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Obsessive-Compulsive Personality disorder (OCPD)

Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)

Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) is a developmental disorder that needs to be differentiated from obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It is important to know that obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) resembles OCD much less than the name suggests if we take a look at the DSM criteria—in the way that OCPD is not characterised neither by obsessions nor by compulsions. However, looking at OCPD as a point on neurotic spectrum leading to OCD might be a better way to look at it—also when facing with OCPD or OCD in therapy.

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Anxiety and Depression

Month of Stress but Decade of Anxiety

April is stress awareness month. Stress is becoming more and more part of our everyday—we cannot even think of daily life without stress anymore—and as such is also either cause or accompanying many mental health and other psychological issues people bring into psychotherapy and counselling. However, a closer look at the internet search statistics, reveals astonishing figures related to stress, anxiety and depression, which are the top three mental health-related searches in the UK.

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Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Obsessions, Compulsions

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a mental health condition characterised by, as its name suggests, obsessions and compulsions. It should, however, be noted that official psychiatric diagnosis differentiates if from obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), which regardless of its name is not characterised by actual obsessions and compulsions. OCD is anxiety based condition, which can be successfully attended to in psychotherapy or counselling. When faced with OCD in a therapy room, the condition itself is not hard to diagnose and differentiate from other conditions, however, people presenting with OCD will sometimes tend to hide their symptoms from the therapist due to the sense of shame.

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Anxiety Agitation Fear Feeling Agitated

Anxiety, Agitation, Fear—What’s the Difference?

When considering the differences between stress, fear, anxiety and agitation, we need to know that modern lay language and everyday usage of these terms redefined them somewhat, which can only increase the misunderstanding. For instance, anxiety is a term used for everything from feeling agitated, irritated, anxious, nervous. This only increases the confusion. However, all these terms are significantly different conditions.

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Social Anxiety Disorder or Social Phobia

Social Anxiety and Social Anxiety Disorder (Social Phobia)

Social anxiety, also known as social phobia, will often accompany generalised anxiety as its integral part, but it can also be quite prevalent, which is when it could be considered separately. If severe enough, we can also talk about it as social anxiety disorder or social phobia. Because of the modern social values in the cosmopolitan world, its underlying triggering mechanisms are quite embedded in collective psychology.

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Therapy and the Fear of Change

Therapy and the Fear of Change

A corporate executive that spent half of her life chasing her career, getting one promotion after the other and moving up the corporate ladder, only to find out—usually in her thirties—that she in fact never achieved what she wanted, whilst her life is slipping by. She wakes up anxious, not knowing what she is doing, where she is going and slightly doubting that she knows what she wants to achieve. She cannot take pleasure in fruits of her hard work although she can afford to. She sees younger generation as competition and starts wondering how long she can keep this up. And what then? When? She can no longer relate to the little girl that sat on her daddy’s shoulders, pulling his hair as they walked through the zoo.

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