Are you afraid of the fact that you have no clue what your life is going to look like in a year? How will you feel in a year? Will you take the proper, the difficult, the more interesting or creative and fulfilling path? How will that turn out and how would it turn out if you didn’t? For you, for others. Why risk it and not take the easy way? It might be better in the long run. But maybe you would just go numb and die inside.
Let’s look at what mental health topics were prevalent when it comes to UK online search statistics in 2017 and throughout the past five years.
You can only change what you see, what you are aware of, what you acknowledge and embrace
You walk into the therapy room filled with hope that the hurt is finally going to end. You open up your vulnerability, your secrets to the one and only person you think can help at that time. It’s hard, but at least initially it seems it’s working.
And then you stumble. You slip right off the edge. Into darkness and despair.
One of my psychotherapy clients—he was an entrepreneur—I was sitting with him one day. He then raised his third round. He came to see me after suffering a series of panic attacks and severe anxiety. When he didn’t suffer from anxiety, he felt a void in his chest. All of it right after he closed the round. Business was great. Everyone—even him—assumed he would relax once done.
Engaging in therapy can be a new experience for many. And it’s even more daunting because one usually goes to therapy when they vulnerable, exposed, empty, hopeless etc. Through therapy you are actually putting yourself in a position when you will need to talk about your pain, vulnerability, emotional or relationship difficulties. Sometimes you are facing all of the above at the same time and it just feels too exposing and shameful to go and talk to a stranger about it. This is normal and almost every client, even those with previous experience with therapy have such fears and dilemmas. However, your therapist fully understands this very ‘human’ challenge and coupled with their knowledge and experience, is able to facilitate your change.
There are many types of eating disorders but the most prevalent ones are know to be anorexia nervosa, bulimia and binge eating disorder (BED). Nutritional nervosa, which is characterised by obsessing over nutrition also seems to be gaining importance with the rise of clean eating. As with any other disorder, a person does not need to be officially diagnosed with an eating disorder for them to be suffering from it’s symptoms. One may present with traits of an eating disorder but not meet official diagnostic criteria of one. Apart from the behaviour related directly to the condition itself, eating disorders are often accompanied by anxiety, depression and obsessive compulsive traits.
As a founder, how do you get out when you are squeezed into a corner just because you care so much? “OK, maybe I need to make an effort to make this work; maybe it’s just me who wants things my own way; maybe I’m too demanding of everyone.” You can’t always have it your own way is the usual response? If you’re a founder, I guess you can relate.
Take for instance a real estate agent working for a large real estate business. He’s ambitious and sets his weekly targets highly. He’s meeting them and surpassing them consistently. Beating his colleagues persistently week after week. The boss loves him, the bonus confirms it.
From the day we are born we are taught to be successful, smart and brilliant, but enjoy life at the same time. To share, but fight for what we want at the same time. To enjoy, be happy and go about our days with ease. To work hard, because only hard work pays off.
“The accomplishment of an aim or purpose” as defined by dictionaries. In reality, almost always just an aim—rarely a purpose. Life purpose—one of the topics my psychotherapy and coaching clients have in common. Not a problem. The problem is we often end up juggling thoughts around their career plans. Maybe success but a very narrow view of purpose.