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Social Media Addiction - Ales Zivkovic Psychotherapy and Counselling

Social Media Addiction

Social media addiction is a clear way of saying addiction comes in many forms. A substantial amount of social media usage today is obviously generated out of addiction related behaviour rather than rationally led. And that also comes across in therapy space. Even though internet addiction started gaining attention with the rise of online activity and even before the true birth of social platforms, there has obviously been a massive rise in addiction when this online activity got its fertile ground in social media platforms. Discussions have been raised that problematic internet use (PIU) should be categorised as  an official mental health condition.

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Psychotherapy and Counselling - Starting a Private Therapy Practice in a Big City

Starting a Private Therapy Practice in a Big City

What you will find reading this post is my own personal reflections on starting a private therapy practice in a big city—be it in counselling or psychotherapy. I am sure there is no cookie cutter approach to it—especially given that geographic location is such a massive factor to a therapist’s work—but I guess anyone can learn from anyone else’s experience. At least somewhat. And if they choose to.

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Borderline Personality Disorder, Promiscuity and Sexual Masochism

Borderline Personality Disorder, Promiscuity and Sexual Masochism

Just as it doesn’t take a formal psychiatric diagnosis of borderline personality disorder (BPD) for one to be affected by its traits, it also does not take a full-blown BPD for promiscuity and sexual masochism to affect a person. Therapists have long been seeing clients that presented with borderline personality disorder (BPD) traits and at the same time had their relationships affected and destroyed by promiscuity and random sexual relations. Some of them are affected more than others with some also affected by sexual masochism (often accompanied by sadomasochism).

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Mother's Emotional Wellbeing and Child Development

Mother’s Emotional Wellbeing and Child Development

It is not really a secret and probably any therapist will be able to confirm to you that parenting has an influence on child’s mental health and emotional wellbeing. I share this view and think that parenting has an important impact on how the child is going to view themselves, others and the world later on in life—also as an adult. I covered this topic already a while ago in a separate piece: Mindful Parenting as Essence of Child’s Mental Health. Recently published research about the impact of mother’s personality traits on child’s level of depression, anxiety and self-harm confirms what, as a therapist, I see with my psychotherapy clients all the time.

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Discriminating the Wealthy Elite in Therapy

Discriminating the “Wealthy Elite” and Therapy

This piece has nothing to do with social justice. It also has nothing to do with wealth equality or levels of social inequality. It has nothing to do with the fact that socially marginalised are often not able to access therapy in the way they should be. Blending all of that into this one topic would be missing the point and refusing to see. Maybe it would be willingly avoiding the point—because it might feel better to avoid it. But I decided not to avoid it. And I decided so not only because of what I was hearing in social circles, but because I was even sensing it between some of my fellow therapists.

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Borderline Personality Disorder BPD

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a developmental disorder of the self. It is characterised by extreme emotional reactions, impulsivity, difficulty of properly engaging in relationships and diminished sense of self. Individuals with borderline personality disorder have difficulties with their sense of self, their self-esteem and self-worth. Relationships are a measure of gaining their sense of self and that is why they put great importance onto others, which is why they may often come across as overly pleasing sometimes.

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Borderline Personality Disorder Relationships, BPD Relationships

Borderline Personality Disorder and Relationships

As partners will often agree, relationships with any personality disorder type are a challenge, but in the case of borderline personality disorder relationships are even more of a roller coaster. And, as we know, one does not have to have a formal personality disorder diagnoses to have the traits of one and bring those into their relationships—either with intimate partners, friends, work, or other kinds of social situations. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) can put a strain on any relationship, which makes the disorder even more important to understand if we are faced with a partner that poses with its traits.

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Obsessive-Compulsive Personality disorder (OCPD)

Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)

Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) is a developmental disorder that needs to be differentiated from obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It is important to know that obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) resembles OCD much less than the name suggests if we take a look at the DSM criteria—in the way that OCPD is not characterised neither by obsessions nor by compulsions. However, looking at OCPD as a point on neurotic spectrum leading to OCD might be a better way to look at it—also when facing with OCPD or OCD in therapy.

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Anxiety and Depression

Month of Stress but Decade of Anxiety

April is stress awareness month. Stress is becoming more and more part of our everyday—we cannot even think of daily life without stress anymore—and as such is also either cause or accompanying many mental health and other psychological issues people bring into psychotherapy and counselling. However, a closer look at the internet search statistics, reveals astonishing figures related to stress, anxiety and depression, which are the top three mental health-related searches in the UK.

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Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Obsessions, Compulsions

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a mental health condition characterised by, as its name suggests, obsessions and compulsions. It should, however, be noted that official psychiatric diagnosis differentiates if from obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD), which regardless of its name is not characterised by actual obsessions and compulsions. OCD is anxiety based condition, which can be successfully attended to in psychotherapy or counselling. When faced with OCD in a therapy room, the condition itself is not hard to diagnose and differentiate from other conditions, however, people presenting with OCD will sometimes tend to hide their symptoms from the therapist due to the sense of shame.

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